What are Resistant Teachers Hiding?
May 14, 2020
The more you understand resistance, the easier it’ll be to respond to it. But many coaches struggle with teachers they perceive as resistant because they don’t understand resistance. In addition, resistance is hard because it activates strong and often unpleasant emotions within us. The more we know ourselves, and understand our thoughts and emotions, the better we’ll be at coaching resistance. Whenever you’re uncertain, uncomfortable, in doubt, troubled, confused, or encountering resistance—start with yourself. Seek to better know yourself.
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