I Made It!

February 5, 2024

EIGHT BOOKS! Last Thursday, on February 1, I submitted the manuscript for my 8th book. I started working on this in 2022, when I thought I was doing a light revision of The Art of Coaching, but I quickly realized that I have learned so much about coaching since I wrote it in 2012, that I needed to write a whole new book. 

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And so I did. And it’s big. There are a lot of words in it. I am very tired. It took a long time. 

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I am also SO, SO, SO excited for this book to be born and it’ll be “on the shelves” by August 1! 

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I started coaching 20 years ago, and I know how to have conversations that connect us to each other, and that often feel pretty good, and that change the experience for children in schools. I know how to have transformational conversations, and I know how to teach you to have them. This book is your comprehensive guide for how to have powerful coaching conversations. 

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In some ways, this was the hardest book to write. I’ve had a lot of conversations with my inner critic in an attempt to quell those anxieties (maybe you saw those on my Instagram feed? That’s where I’ve been sharing a lot of behind-the-scenes from my writing process the last couple of months). 

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This month, I’ll be sharing more exciting news about the book and I’ll give you some sneak peeks. For now, I’ll bask in the satisfaction of having completed a massive project and reflect on these questions: 

  • What did I learn about myself through the process of working on this project?
  • If I could go back to the moment when I started it, what advice would I give myself? 
  • If I could go back in time to the moment when I started it, what might I do differently?
  • What do I feel most proud of in terms of the process?
  • What do I feel most proud of in terms of the product? 
  • What do I know about what it took to create this product that no one else will ever know or really understand? 
  • What’s the kindest thing I can say to myself right now about the process and product?

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I’m sharing these questions with you in the hopes that you might find value in using them to reflect on something you’ve done, be that a recent project or one in the past. 

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In the end, we author our own stories, if we make a conscious choice to do so. Our thoughts are within our control--it’s up to us to slow down and select the ones that truly serve us.

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