Are You Avoiding the Conversation?
July 8, 2024

"The most common response when we're scared is avoidance.
The longer we wait, the greater the fear.
Action reduces fear."
-Shane Parrish
Many people experience fear when discussing equity. This fear is usually rooted in fear of loss of connection, which makes sense.
But here’s the thing: conversations about equity can be connection builders. They’re also necessary to create a world and schools in which every child and adult can thrive.
If you’ve been avoiding taking action, I'm here to help.
You can…
- Build your knowledge by subscribing to my free Weekly Wisdom Newsletter
- Build your knowledge by reading Coaching for Equity
- Build your knowledge by listening to my What to Say When You Hear Something Racist podcast series
- Build your knowledge and skill by attending our Taste of Coaching for Equity one-day workshop
- Take your knowledge and skills to the next level by attending our Coaching for Equity three-day workshop (August 20-22)
There is no single “best” path forward. Pick one that works for you and get moving. Remember: action reduces fear.
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