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Core Human Needs and Coaching Conversations: Episode 197

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April 29, 2024

Best-selling author and coaching expert, Elena Aguilar, brings weekly tips, tools, and wisdom to educators with one goal: to help you thrive.

The Core Human Needs is a thinking tool that has had the biggest impact on Elena’s coaching practice over the past 20 years.

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In this episode, Elena explains what the core human needs are, what you might hear in coaching conversations to indicate they aren’t being met, and how to respond in those moments. This tool is critical for coaching ways of being.

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Mentioned on this episode:

Opportunities for continued learning:

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Attend a The Art of Coaching virtual workshop or The Art of Transformational Coaching in-person workshop with Elena (Fall 2024)

Reflection questions:

How do you think/feel/act/communicate when your own core human needs are not being met?
Think about a client whom you are struggling to support. What types of things are they saying in your conversation? What can those comments tell you about what core human need(s) aren’t being met?
What do you need to do in order to use the Core Human Needs framework in an upcoming coaching conversation?

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